LESSON: 2 Cor. 1:7-11 “Therefore, since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God. Make room for us in your hearts. We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have exploited no one. Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.”
If you joined us Monday we spoke on Relational Healing. Many of us in the body have wounded others or have been wounded. It is important to recognize the trauma of betrayal. This relational trauma of betrayal can present itself in physical ailments or spiritual ailments. Most relational trauma’s come when the other person makes a judgment on the heart motive of another. It is then compounded by the fact that they were not mature enough to come to you directly and they went to a third party to discuss you and the intent of your heart. Then it is compounded by the “wise counsel” not walking the offended/concerned party back to you to give you a chance to hear their heart and express yours. The then “wise counselor” and the offended/concerned party come up with a spiritual justification and judgment regarding your heart. It causes division and divisiveness. It could have all been handled quickly, lovingly and concisely within the moment. Instead “spiritual” judgment compounds with time. You can dress it up anyway you want, but it is still witchcraft. Witchcraft opens the doors for trauma wounds, for both parties. Confession and repentance brings healing to the wound. Heart to heart connection brings healing to the wound. But what if you are not afforded the opportunity for true heart to heart communication? v.1) recognize that nobody is perfect. In general, people are not malicious. They usually operate out of brokenness or immaturity. When we recognize that it is easier to forgive. v.2) Most of us have a defense mechanism which essentially works like this: “I do not want to be exploited, therefore, I will limit your access to me.” This is unbiblical (unless there is abuse). This is ONLY biblical once you have tried to reconcile at a heart level.
EXERCISE CHALLENGE: Today I want us to seek God and sit quietly before His throne. In our journals write, “Holy Spirit, walk me through my relationships and bring to my remembrance any times that I have gone to a third party about my concerns for another and not directly to them and they found out and caused betrayal of the heart. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you divine wisdom on how to go to that person and bring repentance. Then ask the Holy Spirit, where have I suffered relational betrayal in my life? Sit and listen to what Holy Spirit has to say. When we first ask God about our own sin, it is much easier to forgive others of theirs.
ACTIVATION: Father, we ask forgiveness where we have been party to wounding others relationally. We ask for divine wisdom on righteous reconciliation. Father, we come before You with our trauma wounds. You are the Great Physician. Show me, Holy Spirit, if any of my physical ailments is rooted in relational trauma? I ask You to remove the trauma wound from my heart, body, soul and spirit. I declare freedom over my heart, body, soul and spirit. Father, we ask that You bring divine alignment and a righteous reconcilation so that we may walk in vulnerability, transparency and unity. Thank You God for your healing power that comes to destroy darkness. Raise me up to be the poster child and a champion of unity and restoration! Amen
(Post by Amy L. Coello)